rightttt....im back home!


where did i stop?


ok, have to get back my train of thoughts first.....


ermmmm....


yes...stay firm and trash it out! thats my ans. alot of times, we start to take things for granted. that HE is supposed to do this and SHE is supposed to do that. we are imposing what we deemed as an ideal partner on the other party. in the process, we forgot what was the reason that drew you close to each other. what was the thing that made you like him in the first place. my prof told us in lectures that when he does marriage counselling, the question that he always throw to the couple is 'what was the reason that made you love each other in the first place.' sometimes, we place such an high expectation on our partner that when these expectations arent met, we get angry and when your partner knows that he is not meeting your expectations, he feels lousy. i admit im one of those people who thinks that boyfriend should be like this and like that. why isnt he romantic, why doesnt he gives me surprises. yet i forgot the reason that drew me to him - the way i like him as a practical guy. isnt it such a irony? the reason that made you like him becomes the reason that made you unhappy. i couldnt help but think that im such a silly person. when your differences get too big to handle, stop and ask yourself, what exactly made you fell for him in the first place? are your differences so big and serious, over and above the reasons that binded you two together in the first place? sometimes when you take a step back and look at the bigger picture, you will realise that the differences isnt all too big afterall. learn to accomodate to the needs of each other i would say. over millions of people that you came across, why did you choose only him/her and not others? thats fate i would say. learn to cherish what fate has brought for u.

actually i talked so much, i don't know what im driving at. i just know that there is no problem that cant be solved. there is a reason why it is called a problem. because theres always solution to it =)

i know i will iron out all the differences between bf and i. i realised how open bf and i are, we can talk abt problems we are facing and solve it as if it was a maths qns, step by step. and i know this time round, we will do the sum right too.

love u dear! <3